I had dinner and gelati with Jack last weekend, before he leaves for Sydney once again. Previously, he was seconded there for a job for a couple of months, but now, he's returning to Sydney for good. He got an attractive job offer there, and he's planning to settle down.
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But that's not the big shocker... The big news is that he told me,
"I'm getting registered this year".
I was kinda expecting that, but I just didn't know that it was gonna be so soon. We talked about it before and all, but wow! Now it's really happening...
I'm really happy for him and all, but it just got me thinking about me pathetic life, in all aspects.
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Most people I know have got a perfect job, a loving relationship, and some degree of financial gains. And me? What have I got?? Nothing...
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I'm still a student after all these time. I've yet to get a job, and I don't even know if I'll get one that I want. Sigh... I've got no financial stability... Still dependent on my parents for allowance. And the list goes on. And oh... my love life... What love life? It's been non-existent for longer than I can remember.
Jack, Jacy & Mei @ Il Dolce Freddo
And to top it off, I received an e-mail from a group of friends today. Speaking of their jobs and all. Some of them are working for big investment banks, huge consulting firms, the popular accounting firms and all... the big fishes you know? You name it...
Well, initially, they were all enthusiastic and excited about their jobs and all. And slowly, reality sinks in. They now complain of the cruel bosses, the stress from the job... the bitchy colleagues... and lonnnggg hours and all, and not being able to hang out with mates like before.
"Hey, I don't think I can make it for dinner. I'll join you guys for drinks after yeah?"
And then, you realise that it's impossible to complete the job to be able to rock off before 10pm and join them for drinks, so reluctantly, you pick up the phone again and...
"Hey, I'm sorry buddy. But I doubt I can make it for drinks tonight. Another time perhaps?"
And you then say to yourself, that this is only transient. The workload will be lighter once this project is done. But the reality is, it never ends. Sad, but true... That's life I guess... First, you complain that you don't have something, and then when you finally get it, you complain that it's not good enough. Then you proceed to get something new... only to realise that the old one was better, and then you complain again... and the cycle continues. (Ok, i'm starting to babble here)
I know that the grass is always greener on the other side. And when I eventually get to there, the grass will not be as green anymore. But still, I wanna be there... I wanna get there. Nothing is perfect in life. You just have to learn to accept what you can't change, and change what you can't accept... And the wisdom to know the difference.
Jack, I wish you all the best in your career, and in starting a family :) You have my well wishes!!! We'll miss you in Melbourne. And oh, I certainly hope that I can make it to the wedding... Hehehehe.
22 comments:
Hey mei,
You said it best, nothing is perfect in life. I feel this world is not made to be perfect, that’s why god offers heaven to good people, because if this world is perfect, then theres no reason for people wanting to go to heaven right?
And most human would never be satisfied with what we have. Some say even if a human is given a mountain of gold, and then they would always want another mountain. Some of us say we want to earn 20 k per month, but when we get 20k, and realized our close friend is getting 25k, and then we would never be satisfied either. It’s just a vicious cycle.
That’s why there scholars who say that if we try to find pure satisfaction in this life, then we would never reach it because this world is not the place for us to do so. I’ve yet to find any one who is really satisfied or able to maintain the same level of satisfaction for a long period of time.
As for yer love life, no worries mei. I think you are pretty and attractive, and I’m sure there heaps of guys out there who is interested in you. Hopefully one day, you would be attracted to one of them. I totally understand losing a big love. But the day when I finally moved on, was the day when I stop consciously tell myself to move on. It just happen and you would end up meeting a great person when you least expect it.
As for now, you should be happy because it seems you have lots of friends who care about you. I see many outing photos with your friends and when you wrote that “rock” post, checked out how many response you received. If I were to tell you love story of some of the other people I know, then you would realized that your life is not so bad after all. That’s the reality, no matter how bad we think our problem is, its still very small compare to others. And you being around hospital a lot, I’m sure you’ve come a crossed many less fortunate people like those stage 4 cancer patients, or those cerebral palsy kids and many more…
Rudy: Wow!!! That's a really longgg comment. Thanks! I already feel loved! =) Really!!
Yes, I totally agree,that the problems I face is nothing, compared to the many unfortunate patients I see in the hospital...day in, day out.
But the reality is, one will never be truly satisfied with what he's got. I guess that's why there's always improvement in the world. There's always 2 sides to the coin. Just depends on how you look at it, I guess.
While it's important to be thankful and satisfied with life, it's also important to recognise that some things can be improved (hence the "not satisfied"). But yes, I'm truly glad that I still have lotsa friends who care for me, and I'm fortunate enought to be able to enjoy life (unlike many others).
So yeah, I guess my life isn't that bad after all. Just could be better! *winks* Tee hee hee.
And hey, thanks for still following my posts! :) It touches me...
hello there,
i guess you're right...
life's never perfect...or more accurately, humans are and never will be satisfied with whatever they have...
that's human....when they get one thing, they want another...
guess that's why sometimes life's better for those simple minded ppl...after all, they are the ones who feel contented with what they have....
and hey!
u may not have a job, a relationship, or any financial stability, but u still have us!! \(^o^)/
hey don't worry. I believe you can do it. As in earning big cash and all. haha anyway what field are you in? and thanks for the comment.
People spend a lifetime searching for happiness; looking for peace. They chase idle dreams, addictions, religions, even other people, hoping to fill the emptiness that plagues them. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within.
i think it's really true, for It's not what happens to you that determine your happiness.It's how you think about what happens to you!
Mouse: Hey!!! *hug hug hug* You haven't left me a comment for some time! So much for being a silent reader huh? Yeah, I know I'll always have you guys! No matter what happens to me, my family will always love me the same. =)
And just to let you know, that I'll always love you too! Missing you heaps already. Life just ain't the same without you around.
Philip: Hi! Thanks for dropping by my blog, and leaving a comment too :)
I'm in final year med... and can't wait to graduate, but at the same time, I don't know if I'm prepared to stop making a life, and start making a living. (hence the quarter life crisis post). Hahaha.
Mouse: Yeah, you're right. After all, this blog should be about reflections of what's within me. But somehow, the I lost the plot along the way. Hehehe. I hope you're able to do that too... to search within yourself. There's no such thing as being on top of everyone else in the firm. Su Zen is right (what she wrote in her blog).
Knowing what one wants to achieve in life is the very 1st step towards achieving something worthwhile - i.e., one ought to prepare a blueprint of one's life.
But the reality is we'll be forever making amendments to that copy of blueprint.
Hugs!
Amelia: I like your analogy on that =)
I bet I'll be making lotsa amendments to my blueprint. First I'd want an extension here and there, and perhaps, later I'd want a new blueprint of an entirely "bigger" property altogether. Kekeke. *keeping my fingers crossed* that everything will be fine and dandy.
don't be so negative! u have a bright future & great friends & family! many ppl don't have that so treasure that! as for relationship, let nature take its course...
John Vain: Yeah, like I said before... the grass is always greener on the other side. And people always crave for things they don't have. Perhaps, that's why I'm whining about this...
And I hope I don't have to make the choice between love and money too, cause I'm human too, and I'm greedy. I want both! Kekekeke...
Wuching: I hope the ranting and whining is transient. It's just that I'm at a crossroad right now. With the CV preparation and stuff, sometimes, I can't help but be a little pessimistic. And hey, after all, I AM like that. Read my blog narration... Kekeke.
You are having the best time of your life. You may complain about studies, assignments, exams and so on. The reality is, these are the only thing you need to worry about and nothing else.
Enjoy to the fullest what you are having right now.
Cheers.
hey!yupp it's phaik wah! hehe cant believe you still remember!u have another younger sister right?
how have you been?i'm in melbourne as well..
I'm just taking it as it is. but i won't mind moving on to a full time job and actually being able to support myself... i supposed the time will come... eventually
i saw a grey knit that looks like a wrap in just jeans, only thing it's fixed, with not strings to tie
chongsw: Hehehe, I'm just a worrier :) I worry about anything and absolutely everything.
Phaik Wah: Of course I rememeber :) I've got great memory. And you were so cute back then. (I'm sure you're gorgeous now too!)
And yes, I've got a younger sister. She's graduated and is working back in KL now.
You're in Melbourne too? We must meet up one of these days! :) Any way I can contact you? You can e-mail me or something. My e-mail add and msn are on my profile. Looking forward to hearing from you, dear.
Kelly: Oh, really? Great! I shall go check it out. Probably going to DFO as well during easter, since I've got a week off =) How are things going for ya?
u also realised that u r at quarterlife crisis huh? just like me, same generation :D
TMY: Hahaha, you're wayyyy past that, Mr. Midlife Crisis! Kakakakaka.
yeahh my sisters were here as well but went back 2 yrs ago :)
okayss i jus added you on msn,will catch up wt u soon!
phaikwah
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