LOVE and Marriage

I attended an old friend's wedding in Brisbane over the weekend. It was a simple outdoor wedding, nothing too extravagant. Just a little get-together for family and friends that matter, to witness the coming together of two individuals, who chose to share their lives as one.

From that moment on, they will no longer be two separate entities, but rather, one single functional unit.

It was really good to be able to be a part of the wedding. I felt really privileged to be invited, and furthermore, we were seated on table 3 - after the bride and groom's family. It brought a sense of warmth to my heart.... that my dear friend appreciates my friendship, and thought of me when it came to sharing an important moment in his life.

The ceremony was short and sweet. Straight to the point, and not many cliche, lovey dovey stuff mentioned. It wasn't like a fairy tale, romantic love story. But it was very much real...

Jonathan, Mei, Alice and Gary - mucking around! I gotta admit that I love this shot! Hehe.

Attending weddings almost always makes me wonder...

Do people always marry the love of their life??

Or do they mostly end up marrying the person that was there at the right time?

And how would you really know if this person in front of you is the right one?

Do you only find out in retrospect??

People always say that love shouldn't be difficult. But can they say the same about marriage? You can't deny that it takes work... It takes time, and effort. It involves understanding, giving and nurturing.

My question is, can you make a marriage work, if you tried hard enough... eventhough you may one day wake up, and realise that he / she may not be your soulmate?

If so,

Will you let your partner know??

Or will you go through life everyday,

Just the way you did before...

I can confidently say that not everyone whom I know,

married the ultimate love of their lifes.

Some married for convenience,

Some married for status and money,

Some married because of pressure,

Some felt like it was about time,

And some... just wanted to settle down with, someone.

But for Boon and Sarah,

I sincerely congratulate you both,

For being so sure about each other,

For trusting the other, and trusting yourself.

For making this life decision to take the plunge,

To be there with each other, for each other.

For the right reasons.... to love and to hold,

Till death do you both part.