Sugar coated? Or Bluntly honest?
I was having a discussion with someone yesterday, and I suddenly thought to myself... Is he/she telling me the truth? Will he/she ever be totally entirely honest with me? And even if he/she weren't 100% honest, when does it come to a point where he/she's dishonest?? There is no one fine line that distinguishes it, is there? It's more like a big grey area that's hazy and complicated...
I suppose he/she would have told me one thing, but would also not want to let the other person down, or make her upset, hence the decision that he/she made in the end... But is that the case? Or did he/she think otherwise, and was only saying what you wanna hear to please you? If that's the case, is he/she accountable for being dishonest?
I am aware that no one person is 100% perfect. Not to your standard anyway. If so, then are you willing to put up with the "dishonesty", or is it better for him/her to be entirely open and honest with you, eventhough that may mean you will hear things you do not want to hear...
And is blunt honesty always a good thing? In relationship, and in life... I guess we sometimes do need a little bit of sugar coating.
But if so, then why am I so affected, knowing that he/she told me one thing, and did another... eventhough that little thing might seem really trivial to him/her... but the repercussions of it... I don't know.
Don't quite know what I feel now, all I know is, I don't feel right...
Perhaps different people are wired differently, and I just need to come to terms with that. But at times like these, I think to myself... whatever happened to compromise, and respect? If I respect him/her, then he/she should respect me too... and should have honoured what he/she said yesterday...
Like the old saying goes... "Honesty is the best policy" even if it doesn't float your boat.
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Sorry if this post seems rambly, and doesn't flow.
It's not a perfectly composed one...
I guess, all I'm asking for, is for him/her to be put in my shoes.
How would he feel if I did the same towards him/her...
8 comments:
Hey girl, are you okay? It takes alot of strength and understanding to make a relationship work.
I hope things will get better for you as I'm sure they would.
Take care.
Somehow, things will pass, and you'll once again be alright.
You just need to get through the dark clouds, before you see the sun shining again. It is then, that you'll realise that you've been waiting for a rainbow all along.
The dark clouds were merely there, to make the rainbow look nicer.
Dearest sis,
Just remember that whatever happens, I will be here, supporting u...
=)
Be strong & calm dear girl.. Hope & pray things will turn out well.Take care.
anonymous: Yeah, whether to make a friendship work, or a relationship... it takes effort and understanding from both sides. Or else, there's no point... if the other person just doesn't put in the effort....
james: You're right. But sometimes, the dark clouds are so dark and stormy, you just wanna walk away from it all...
I sure hope what you're saying is gonna come true. I can't wait for the sun to shine and to see the rainbow again!
funny: That's sweet... Thank you dear!
Whatever happens, your family will always be there... rite? *hugz*
esther: Thanks gal! I sure hope so too...
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