People always said to me that we all learn from our mistakes, from our past experiences. Sure thing, you subject yourself to vulnerability, you get your heart broken, and torn into a thousand pieces... But you pick up the pieces, and learn to be stronger. To live life different, to do things differently. It may be really difficult, but then you realise that life goes on after all... No matter how many lemon God throws at you.
You patch up the broken pieces of your poor lill' heart, and convince yourself that it's a whole again.. Brand new! :) And you've finally gathered enough courage to step into the dating scene once more... hoping to be swept off your feet by the right person. Hoping that this time, things will be different cause you're now equipped with the experience of your past relationship. And of course, the scars it carries, with the lessons learnt.
But really, being in a relationship is taking that risk, that your heart may be shattered into a thousand little pieces mercilessly. It's like having a precious piece of crystal ornament, and handing it to your partner for safe-keeping, hoping that they'll take meticulous care of it... to polish and brush it. To love it with all their heart, and never to break it.
And do we truly know that we're handing that precious part of us to the right someone? Are we truly gonna be happy this time around?? Or really, could it be the same thing all over again? The cycle that's repeating itself...
Do we all have a dating pattern?? Are we really just dating the "same" guy over and over again, but in a different physique and appearance? Because really... we're creatures of habit. We are attracted to that special something. That same something that he has, and the previous, and the previous...
"Do you reckon you're attracted to a certain kinda guy... over and over again, even if it spells DANGER?" Old habits die hard, or so they say...
**Disclaimer: This entry does not reflect the situation I am in. Just a little something I was pondering about**
8 comments:
Good Morning,
Your question of
"Do you reckon you're attracted to a certain kinda guy... over and over again, even if it spells DANGER?" underlies one of the basic traits of mankind; that man requires rules and regulations to avoid stepping into the pit. This is when self-discipline and constant reflection comes in for an individual. Thanks to Han Fei Zi for realising and reminding us of this very basic traits of human.
I've realized that the type of guys that I like are no good for me. Only cause me hurt and pain.
I should really stop my 'dating pattern', or find a different pattern.
Interesting read, definitely something worth thinking about.
I don't think I date the same kind of guy over and over again, but maybe there's some similarities between them.
-lainers-
sometimes, people want something, but they need something else. and they cant sustain a relationship with that someone they want, because what they really need, is quite different from what they want.
get me?
benkaiser: There are hardly any rules when it comes to matters of the heart.
You can't really stop yourself from falling for the person... that's why it's called "falling" - you don't get to choose...
However, you can choose not to act upon it. But you can't choose what your heart wants to feel.
lily tan: Good luck in doing that~ =)
lainers: Thanks!
Yeah, I'm sure there's always something about them that attracts you...
and persoanally, i find that it's almost always the same thing that attracts me ;)
timmy: *gasps* OH MY GOSH! Someone once told me this before....
"What you want might not be what you need"
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