I was chatting to one of my friends on the phone the other day. I could sense that she had alot on her mind. Some important matters that could affect the rest of her life.
She had so many questions in her head. Not all that I could give her answers for. After all, we all have our own demons and fears, and reasons behind carrying out certain acts or behaviour.
It was one of the big questions for someone our age group. The question of marriage.
She has come to realise that marriage is not a bed of roses. It is not only about saying "yes" to the romantic proposal. That, was only the beginning...
Then comes the wedding to prepare for. And the union of two families, and everything else that comes with it. You know, it's true when they say that you can't please everyone in the world.
So what then?
Ultimately, you need to dig deep, think hard, and make sure that you said "yes" because you are sure he's the person you want to be with for the rest of your life. It is a lifetime decision. Of course you can get divorced and start over if it really doesn't work out, but that shouldn't be the reason to say yes, knowing that there's always backup and alternatives if things fall apart.
If your answer is truly yes - then you guys can work things out. Sit down together, and understand each other's reasons behind doing certain things. Of course a marriage unites two families, but the strongest bond, is that it bonds the two of you. Nobody else should matter as much when it comes to making that decision. If it means that you need to give up lots, pack up your things and move to a different country, if your answer is yes, then so be it. It should still be a yes!
If you're unsure, then perhaps now is not the right time for that unity. You have issues to work out before you should proceed. Yes, I know you may say that you can never understand or know a person 100%, inside and out.. but you should have a pretty good idea.
And if it's yes, then you still have the rest of your lives together, to learn, and find out...
I hope you make the right decision, darling. And whatever it is, I'm right behind you :) *hugz* I know it sounds really simple when you read it in words, but I know that it is wayy harder being the person in the situation. The world is never in black and white, but rather, many shades of grey. So babe, l'm just a phone call away if you need to chat again, k?
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And on a separate note, but the same matter.... CONGRATULATIONS ALVIN AND CAMILIA! The wedding was beautiful! Although I'm only experiencing it second hand, but I felt the beauty and love behind it all! So wished I was there! *sobs*
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